What Our Lips Are Telling Us - Part 3

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13. Even a light lip-brushing is a huge turn-on for our brains

“It probably depends on who you ask -- it’s culturally influenced,” the Expert says. The famous Indian sex text the Kama Sutra advises going for the lips, of course, as well as the inside of the mouth, the breasts, the throat and most places on the face. Science also provides some clues: It turns out that a disproportionate amount of brain space is taken up with processing information from the lips compared to the rest of our bodies. “Just a light brush on them stimulates a very large part of the brain -- an area even more expansive than would be activated by sexual stimulation below the belt,” the Expert writes.


14. Men like tongue more than we do

Remember when Sex and the City’s Charlotte got totally grossed out when one of her dates started licking her face? The moment captures a real distinction between how men and women like their kisses. “There’s this huge gender divide: Men tend to express a preference for wet, sloppy, open-mouthed kisses, and women are constantly complaining about too much tongue,” the Expert says. There’s a reason guys do what they do: An open mouth allows men to dose women with small amounts of libido-raising testosterone via their saliva. “If he’s kissing her over weeks or months, it enhances her libido over time,” the Expert says.

15. Kissing while (mildly) intoxicated can up the passion

To drink or not to drink? On the one hand, drugs and alcohol stimulate some of the same brain chemicals as a kiss, so you could mistake your substance-induced high for passionate feelings about your partner, the Expert says. But, that said, if you’re looking for something casual, kissing can be better after a drink or two (and alcohol can release your inhibitions, making a kiss more likely). “It can wind up feeling better or worse -- it depends on how drugs affect your sense of reality,” the Expert says. “Kissing acts as a drug on top of everything else, so when there’s a lot riding on it, go with most accurate impression of what you feel,” which is probably more obvious when you’re sober.


16. Kissing never gets old -- even when we do

While there hasn’t been much study of kissing and longevity, there’s reason to think that kissing is vital -- and enjoyable -- throughout our lives, the Expert says. “Kissing is so important to long-term bonds,” she says. ”It helps to maintain a relationship.” So she suspects kissing plays an important role from birth to death.


17. Kissing can actually help you make up

Forget chocolate and flowers -- just plant one on her lips. Though a woman may profess to be unmoved by a kiss from the man she’s fighting with, research has found that a smooch (or a few) paves the path to forgiveness, the Expert writes. The effect may come from the oxytocin that’s released during kissing. Kissing may reduce levels of cortisol -- the stress hormone -- coursing through our bodies during a fight. “Reducing stress is a pretty good way to amend a fractured relationship,” the Expert says.


18. Men see kisses as a means to an end

No doubt: Both men and women enjoy kissing. But while women tend to ascribe big-picture significance to a kiss (is he "The One"?) guys often smooch for short-term gain. Exhibit A: Prostitutes don’t kiss their johns, and the clients don’t seem to mind. For men, while kissing can be meaningful, it also can be all about sex, the Expert says. “Men are kissing as a means to an end: They’re swapping saliva so they can swap something else later,” she says. “Women look to a kiss to assess relationship status. We are sensitive to things that tweak out compatibility, and from an evolutionary perspective, men don’t need to do that.”

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What Our Lips Are Telling Us

1. Is it in his kiss?

Oh, yes. Osculation, the scientific term for kissing, in many ways says everything about your compatibility with your mate and the health of your relationship. What Our Lips Are Telling Us,We asked an expert, to tackle some of your top questions when it comes to smooching. Curious to know what happens inside our brains and bodies when we do it? Wondering whether a kiss means more to you than to your guy, or whether you can make your make-out session even better?



2. Kissing isn’t just about chemistry

While two strangers might serendipitously find themselves chemically compatible, more often the best kisses grow out of an emotional connection and ambience, Expert says. “So much of a great kiss is understanding the needs and desires of another person -- there’s no one-size-fits-all formula to it,” she says. How-to guides “focus on where to put your hand or how to set the mood, when so much of it is intuitive that you make the person comfortable, secure and safe. It’s an ultimate expression of how you feel about them.”


3. Kissing is universal

Kissing seems “almost completely universal” among humans today, the Expert says. But it wasn’t always so; she cites the work of anthropologist Helen Fisher, who’s noted that certain South African tribes once “found kissing disgusting” and that it was previously “unknown” among people in parts of East Africa and South America. Still, non-kissing cultures did kissy things like lick, suck or blow on a lover’s face before intercourse, the Expert writes. “Now kissing is exported and we’re using mouthwash and toothpaste, so in some ways the experience is so much better than before it became a common custom,” she says.

4. We always remember our first kiss

If you’re like most people, you remember your first kiss much better than losing your virginity, according to Butler University research. It’s not clear why, but the Expert says it may relate to a kiss being our introduction to sexual behavior -- and to all the important decisions that come with it. “I would expect it has to do with novelty and how much we engage all our senses in the behavior,” she says. “A kiss really works as nature’s litmus test. It tells us whether we decide to pursue a relationship.”



5. Kissing comes naturally but our techniques can evolve

We’re kissed from birth (more on that later) and other social animals seem to kiss, too. Bonobos -- a type of Chimpanzee -- have been known to smooch for up to 12 minutes straight, while giraffes like to entwine necks, and even fish touch lips, the Expert says. So while all of us seem to be programmed to know what to do, we pick up culture-specific techniques from movies and TV. Still, the Expert says, “There are definitely things people can learn to make it a better experience.” Lay off the pressure -- it produces the stress hormone cortisol, a real buzz kill. “Getting to know someone fosters a bond and makes the likelihood of a kiss going well higher,” she says.



6. It’s all about first impressions

A bad first kiss can kill a would-be romance faster than you can reapply your lipstick. In a S.U.N.Y. Albany survey, 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women reported ending a relationship because the first kiss was off. The finding points to the way we unconsciously assess reproductive compatibility through a kiss, so a good kiss may signal a sizzling future under the sheets, the Expert says. Kissing releases chemicals associated with romantic and emotional bonding (oxytocin) and pleasure (dopamine). “A lot of people, especially men, judge how someone might perform later based on kissing,” she says. “If you have that boost in oxytocin, those dopamine spikes, you can’t wait to be with that person.”




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Is Smoking really bad for health?

Several types of "Smoker’s Paradoxes", (cases where smoking appears to have specific beneficial effects), have been observed. This is in addition to the numerous documented negative health effects of smoking.

Often the actual mechanism remains undetermined.

A plausible mechanism of action in some cases may be the nicotine in tobacco smoke acting as an anti-inflammatory agent and interfering with the disease process.

• Digestive system
  • Risk of ulcerative colitis has been frequently shown to be reduced by smokers on a dose-dependent basis; the effect is eliminated if the individual stops smoking.
  • Smokers are less often affected by aphthous ulcer.

• Cardiovascular system
  • Kaposi's sarcoma

• Reproductive/breasts
  • breast cancer among women carrying the very high risk BRCA gene
  • Pre-eclampsia
  • Smoking can also reduce rates of uterine fibroids. This may be due to estrogen inhibition, as opposed to general inhibition of inflammation.
  • The risk of endometriosis has been reported to be reduced in smokers.

• General
  • atopic disorders such as allergic asthma

• Neurologic
  • Smoking has been consistently found to be a protective factor on epidemiological studies for Parkinson's disease. The basis for such effect is not known but possibilities include an effect of nicotine as dopamine stimulant.
  • The majority (80% in Australia as of 2001, 85% in the US as of 2007) of schizophrenics smoke, apparently to self-medicate.Nicotine appears to be an effective antipsychotic, and work is underway to develop antipsychotic drugs based on nicotine without the ill effects of smoking or of nicotine itself.

# The University of Melbourne confirmed the claims made by many smokers that tobacco itself is a strong appetite suppressant, and many use it to self-treat compulsive overeating disorders or obesity.
 
# Cigarette smoking has also been linked to a decrease in risk of certain inflammatory disorders, since nicotine itself appears to be an anti-inflammatory agent. The department of gastroenterology at the University Hospital of Wales conducted a number of in-vitro studies to confirm and explain the decreased risk in ulcerative colitis (a potentially severe digestive disorder) in individuals who smoke cigarettes.

# Perhaps most shockingly, tobacco smoke's anti-inflammatory effects may actually provide some benefits to children who are exposed to secondhand smoke. While this is certainly not worth at-home experimentation, one astonishing study conducted in Sweden observed two generations of Swedish children and found that the children of smokers had lower rates of allergic rhinitis, allergic asthma, atopic eczema, and food allergies.

# A series of very interesting studies from multiple academic sources confirms that the risk of Parkinson's disease and Alzheimer's disease is surprisingly higher in non-smokers than in smokers.

# The most fascinating and widely recognized health benefit of smoking is its ability to seemingly alleviate symptoms of mental illnesses, including anxiety and schizophrenia. According to an article published in 1995 in Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, schizophrenics have much higher smoking rates than people with other mental illnesses, and appear to use it as a method of self-medicating.

# A study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology revealed that preeclampsia, an extremely common but potentially deadly condition, is significantly less common in expectant mothers who smoke cigarettes than in expectant mothers who do not smoke.

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This is a risky subject and I request everyone who reads this story that if you are a non-smoker or quit smoking please don't get enthusiastic to have it again. Even who are smokers and planning to quit please do it now - quit smoking. Because benefits of non-smokers are far more great than somkers. Please NEVER SMOKE,do not use this as a reason to begin smoking or to avoid smoking cessation.

I only want to let you know that other side of smoking and just not to encourage you smoking. See here the Danger side of SMOKING.
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Premature Ejaculation - Men's Never Ending Worry

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  • What You Need To Know
  • The most important thing in making a woman cum is relaxation.
  • Focus on stimulation rather than penetration. Solution? Foreplay.
  • Besides foreplay, focus on female pleasure positions.

  "Your mom could walk in the room (we hope she doesn’t), and you wouldn’t be able to stop."

Can't last as long as you'd like to during sex? It may not even matter. The truth is you could last longer than the director's cut of Inception, and it wouldn't make a bit of difference if you weren't giving a woman the right kind of stimulation. Learn a few key tricks, though, and you can give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm with just a few minutes of intercourse. The secret? It’s all about timing. Read on to learn about managing premature ejaculation by taking advantage of the 90-second window.


Get In The Window

When it comes to, well, cumming, men and women are very different. Guys have a point of what’s called orgasmic inevitability. This is the moment when you’re going to pass the point of no return and climax, no matter what. Your mom could walk in the room (we hope she doesn’t), and you wouldn’t be able to stop. But women don’t have orgasmic inevitability. In fact, many women claim that they can “lose” an orgasm when they’re right on the verge of having it. 

That’s where the “window of female orgasmic opportunity” comes in. This is the minute and a half, (aka the 90-second window) when she’s close to climaxing -- and the right moves can help push her over the edge and ensure her orgasm. Here’s how.


Set The Mood

Studies show that women are more likely to orgasm when comfortable and relaxed during sex. Researchers in the Netherlands found that the key to female arousal seems to be a deep sense of relaxation. In a study in which the brains of men and women were scanned during the process of sexual response using a technique called positron emission tomography (PET), the results showed that the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and high emotion deactivate during sexual activity. And at peak, during orgasm, the female brain’s emotion centers close down, producing an almost trance-like state. So do whatever you can to make her feel at ease and less stressed. 


Focus On Foreplay

Next, start stimulating her biggest sex organ: the brain. Research shows that most women fantasize during sex, probably because it helps them relax. Share a hot fantasy -- starring her, of course. After some mental foreplay, you should transition into some serious physical foreplay. When it comes to premature ejaculation, never forget about foreplay. Lots of us view foreplay as a quick round of appetizers, when we should be thinking of it as a main course. Think clitorally rather than vaginally; focus on stimulation as opposed to penetration. Many women say that they climax most consistently from receiving oral sex, for example. So start treating foreplay like its own form of lovemaking, and give it equal -- if not more -- weight as intercourse.

"Most women have an innate capacity to achieve multiple orgasms..."

Pay Attention It’s easy to get lost in your own pleasure, but if you want to help a woman orgasm, you have to focus on her, too. It’s common for women to turn inward when they’re turned on, so don’t rely on moans of pleasure to guide your way. Instead, watch for tension in her muscles, especially in her hands, feet and pelvis. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you a sign when she’s getting close, like a squeeze of your hand.

Don’t Stop

If it seems like something’s working, don’t change it. When a woman is close to climaxing, she needs consistency, not variety. Keep using your penis, hand, mouth, toy, or whatever else to provide resistance to her clitoris while letting her do the work. This clitoral pressure is more important for her pleasure than simply thrusting.

Get Her On Top

When she’s ready for intercourse, pull her on top of you. Also called female-superior, it’s the best sex position for helping a woman climax because it provides clitoral stimulation. You can also try CAT (coital alignment technique): You’re on top, but focus on deep thrusting while keeping pressure on her clitoris from your pelvis. 

Relax And Enjoy

While you might both orgasm at the same time, it’s more likely that one of you will be first. Keep this in mind when it comes to dealing with premature ejaculation. If that’s you, don’t sweat it. Keep her in the window: It will take about 90 seconds to lose your erection, so she should still be able to climax if you’re providing consistent clitoral stimulation with your pelvis. 

She Comes First

And if she comes first? Enjoy her orgasm, and congratulate yourself on a job well done. Most women have an innate capacity to achieve multiple orgasms, so get to work on that second one. 

Few more Tips:

Whenever you hear something like`It`s not a big deal, it happens to everyone`, there is only one thing that you think of. Not so great sex (to put it mildly), which, in most cases, can be a consequence of two things: inability to perform or premature ejaculation. If your partner is having troubles with the second one, here are some of the things you may want to consider.

Premature ejaculation is really not a big deal if it happens very rarely, but if that is something that you have to deal with every time you have sex, it can be a frustrating and nerve-racking experience. The most important thing is to face the problem by doing something that will prevent it.

One of the most reliable things that your partner can use is a drink that consists of 10 to 12 almonds, cardamom, saffron, a cup of milk and ginger. These should be mixed in a blender but almonds have to be soaked in water during the night and peeled off before you blend them together with the rest of ingredients. It is best if this drink is consumed early in the morning.

Being relaxed is one of the crucial things when premature ejaculation is in question. There is no point in blaming your partner and you shouldn`t make him feel bad about it. Be very supportive and try not to make a big deal out of it. Make sure that you are kind and loving so that he is not additionally frustrated.

His eating habits are also a major issue as some food items can be extremely beneficial. Premature ejaculation can be avoided if foods like onions, bananas, carrots and celery are added to almost every meal.

There is also one more thing that you can count on. Yoga has proved to be beneficial for a vast number of things. Preventing premature ejaculation is one of those things but only certain yoga positions will do the trick. Namely, camel pose, fish pose, bow pose and elevated lotus can be tried out as they guarantee that this problem will be taken care of.

Using mustard oil to massage the penis can be an interesting experience with positive results. Massaging the relevant area is good when it comes to relaxation and getting rid of anxiety and nervousness, which are very common causes of premature ejaculation.

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